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| Author | Topic: my late husband |
| Aline |
posted 6/15/07 12:27 AM
Since next month will be the anniversary of the death of my husband, he is in my thoughts. My husband was a small man but he was witty. Anyway in 1994 he was diagnozed with Alzhemiers , that sure changed our lives. Anyway as you know that disease progresses and his did really fast,he was at the stage that he could not walk nor talk but he still remembered us meaning me my son and his family. So my son would drop by with his family to visit and my husband really enjoyed their visits. One day a friend of ours came over with some oysters for my husband, this friend was a true friend who did not abandon my husband he came over constantly to visit. This day my son dropped in with his kids and he said hi Dad, my husband looked at him with a sort of twinkle in his eye and he jestured get out get out, and my son looked at his Dad with a smile and his Dad had this look on his face meaning I gotcha. smile. My son still talks about this, he says Mom do you remember when Dad pretended to kick me out? smile.My late husband left me many of his memories to pass down to our two grandchildren and I have done so, I have written a little book for my grandson title Papa's Memories so that he will never be forgotten. I am so happy to have been able to share his memories that he shared with me with my grandchildren. I am so happy that I wrote all these little notes and also put them in my family tree book for our son. If I could get even one of you out there who are reading this today to jot down memories passed on to you somewhere in a book, on a CD, I would be so very happy knowing you have done so. http://www.acadian-roots.com |
| Paul of San Diego |
posted 10/22/07 2:33 AM
Hi Aline. This month is my 2 year anniversary of my wifes death. I still cry when I listen to songs I used to sing to her for years.The following is the poem I wrote for her memorial. PaulA message came upon the wind Just as the sun was falling That said your pain had reached its end And Heaven’s Gate was calling No more would sadness radiate No more would grief endure As on the clouds, you’d meditate In peace, forevermore. You may be out of sight unable to be seen today, But, you'll be in our heart and mind forever and a day. So drift up and up my dear and worry not about your team We shall be forever with you in reality and in dreams. |
| Aline |
posted 10/22/07 12:11 AM
Paul that is a beautiful memorial poem. It is so hard when we lose a love one. My husband had Alzheimers and had you known him you would have known he was a very proud man and to see himself bedridden for 6 months he would not have wanted to live that way. So I guess God must have decided to take him.I was with him constantly when he was sick and by his side when he passed away. So I know what you must be going though. It is so hard at first,and we never forget,and I never stop mentioning him when I can.Thanks for sharing Paul. http://www.acadian-roots.com |
| Paul of San Diego |
posted 11/3/07 4:03 AM
Hi Aline. About 40 years ago I came up with a saying, which I still 101 % live by and love...which is: "Any time you can wake up in the morning, look in the mirror and make a decision, it has got to be a great day"..Lets stay positive with our wonderful memories, huh? Paul |
| Aline |
posted 11/3/07 12:42 AM
I agree with you Paul, we live one day at a time and deal with whatever is thrown our way, but as you say we are lucky to be able to wake up each morning .I saw two couples the other day who were great friends of my husbands and we had a nice chat about him .It s nice to reminise.Myself I am very glad of one thing, and that is that my husband had a chance to see his two grandchildren. Aline http://www.acadian-roots.com acadian/french canadian/cajun genealogy |
| Shirley |
posted 4/5/08 0:27 AM
Just a quick comment, I work with Alzheimer patients, it's a very devastating disease and I often think it's harder at times on the family than the person afflicted. It's wonderful that you've kept a record of the special memories you shared! |
| Aline |
posted 4/5/08 0:50 AM
Thank you Shirley, and yes I agree it is very hard on the caregivers and families. I guess it is because we cannot stop the progression, we hurt for them, and knowing we are going to lose them and they do not know it.Although one time I remember my husband saying to me "Am I going to die?" well my heart was breaking hearing those words , but again I did not want to hurt him and I replied, you do not die from Alzheimers. I do know that usually they stop eating with the disease. That is what my husband did, he quit just like that, one day he was eating ok, and the next day he just did not want to eat anything.A very very sad disease, I only wish that one day soon they will find a cure, I do know that they have isolated the gene. Wish a cure would have come sooner. |
| wezzy |
posted 4/15/08 11:35 PM
I recall my uncle jerry very well, and every year my auntie aline would bake me a birthday cake til I was at least 12.I go over and uncle jerry would say is that you wezzy,,,Aline come show wezzy what petey can do..lol.I can recall that just like yesterday, he was a great man. |
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