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| Author | Topic: Can someone here help? |
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Wanda (Moderator) |
posted 7/4/05 3:28 PM
I am a survivor of an assault by my ex-husband. I was in a coma, then a vegetative state, then home. I live alone in a strange town, had to move to be safe. I have no support system. My TBI is mostly frontal lobe, had existing ADHD and also have hypoxic brain damage. I had no pulse when I was found, and they don't know the extent of the oxygen loss. My problems are mainly ognitive. I get lost, can't figure out about my bills and money, get red and green, stop and go, left and right confused. My IQ was not seriously affected, and I think this makes people think I'm okay. I need help but don't know where to look for it. an someone here help me?? willwrite47@yahoo.com [This message has been edited on 07/04/2005] |
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Miya (Moderator) |
posted 7/4/05 3:31 PM
It was refreshing to read your posting. I can't say that I can help, but I hope it will help to feel that you are not alone. For the past 4 years I have had surgeries to remove a reoccuring brain tumor. A little less than a year ago, the tumor erupted in my head. Many complications snowballed because of this. I went through the whole coma; had to relearn to talk, walk, write, read and do daily functions. Though I have some learning challenges now, most of my intellect is still entact. Though I am not alone like you in a new place, my few friends actually make it more difficult. I have always been a head strong, independent person, and now I have to adjust my life to my deficiencies. However, my friends think I am being lazy, scared and I am making up my deficiencies, even when I tell them it is coming from a doctor. It actually makes me feel worse. Are you in therapy? I actually see a both a psychologist and a neuropsychologist. It has helped enormously. [This message has been edited on 07/04/2005] |
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Wanda (Moderator) |
posted 7/4/05 3:33 PM
I am pleasantly amazed that someone finally found a commonality in my message. I feel like someone on a deserted island most of the time. I have a wonderful psychiatrist and have just found a great therapist after having 5 in a year. One therapist actually told me (when he was cutting me loose)that it would be very difficult for me to find a therapist because there was no improvement expected, therefore no good outcome, therefore no sense of professional success. I had an almost successful suicide attempt in May. Amazing when you think of how I fought to live after my assault. I became so overwhelmed by life and my inability to do simple things like keep up with where I put my bills, not getting side-tracked and off on something entirely different when I go to pay them, my family's unwillingness to accept the extent of my injuries, etc. I know you understand when I say everyday is a struggle. My higher thought was not affected, and I find myself losing whole days doing something stupid like researching comparative religions, but forgetting to get dressed, or that I had a doctor's appointmet, or anything. Do you still drive? I had to stop driving because I would just space out and run lights, pull out in traffic without looking. I have severe PTSD which causes me to dissociate, and causes something the doctors like to call "red rage" where I just go off on someone and have no memory of doing it, and when I come back to earth I don't understand why people are upset with me. But I think the worst part of all this by far is hearing people say everyday: "Oh, I do that! I lost my keys just the other day and was late for work twice last week." They don't understand that for people like us its everyday, every hour, every minute of trying to learn coping skills to help us just function on a minimal level. I have come home, unlocked my door (I leave my keys attached to my purse because I lose them so much),then I wake up the next day, look for my purse and find it hanging outside attached to the door key. This wouldn't be so bad if I didn't live in the "hood"! Oh well, enough of this whining, it's just great to find someone who can empathize. But after reading your post, I know I should be thankful. You must be very strong-willed and brave to have survived all that you have and kept on pulling on the taffy of life. God bless you for replying and I hope to hear from you again. [This message has been edited on 07/04/2005] |
| ctw |
posted 7/6/05 4:42 PM
Very general resource http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/ADHD_Bulletin_Board/ http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/ADHD_Bulletin_Board/ ADHD Syndrome |
| cindy |
posted 7/26/05 1:03 AM
hi wanda! i just found this website a couple days ago and am real glad i did. i'm sorry to hear about your situation and was wondering how you're doing now in your new small town? i've recently moved(2 months ago from atlanta) to a small town and i absolutely love it here. i got so tired of the traffic and all the busyness! how are you adjusting to your new home? are all the people here(this site) from georgia or from all over the place? i was in a near fatal car accident in 1985 which put me in a coma for 2 months. needless to say, my life will never be the same but i'm just grateful to God for all that i can do. i'm new to this and lost the first note (which was alot better!) that i wrote you. would love to get to know more about you....:) cindy |
| Patricia |
posted 3/17/06 2:37 AM
Hi everyone, I am so inspired to read about how everyone here is doing. I am a disabled, widow with several health problems and it really helps to be around other people who are trying to survivie their circumstances. Thank you, everyone for sharing your experiences. It really helps to make me feel better about life. Patriciann http://mypeoplepc.com/members/jspr007/patricia/ My home website |
| Rebeccah |
posted 5/15/09 5:31 PM
Hi, I am new to all of this, but I am glad I found people to relate to.Due to a brain tumour and several operations, a stroke, and many more things, I have found myself having to adjust to a wheelchair, speech difficulties, facial palsy, blindness in one eye, deaf in one ear etc etc. Anyway it's good to hear other people's stries of strength. thanx http://amazingforums.com |
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