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| Author | Topic: new Wife |
| Ciera |
posted 2/2/05 2:27 AM
I am a soon to be new wife of a divorced man with one child. My story is actaully very simialar to yours. I am also hated by the ex wife. she is very much like you were. I have tried to get along with her because I know it effects the kid most. But she is just to resentful of the fact that her son now has another woman in his life whom he loves very much almost as much as his mother. She is angry because her ex husband( my fiance's) is moving on with his life and her son loves spending time here. No matter what i do I can't not express to her enough that I am not trying to be his mother I merely want to be his friend and an adult in his life that demands respect. My questions would be is how do we, my fiance and I communicate with someone like this. We are very concerned for the son because he is very much in the middle of things. How do we make him not in the middle anymore. My fiance's ex wife has aggreed to sit down and try and tlak out all the things we feel we need to dicuss about being good parents for the son. What would you advice us to dicuss with his ex wife. and how do we responde to her comments. when they come. thank you for your time |
| Tammy |
posted 3/22/05 5:53 PM
I have been the new wife for the past 6 years and his children were teenagers when we got married and mine were infants and toddlers. We are now coming on our 6th year of marriage and I am at the point that even though I love him that I cant take the things that I get called from his kids and his ex when she is around and even though I respect her, make her feel welcome I still am hated from her and she now has the kids doing it even more and my husband sees it as he is in the middle . Well I hope that maybe your life turns out different than mine cause the feeling I have now is one that I wish on no-one |
| Angie |
posted 6/23/05 4:01 PM
Good luck is all I can say. I am in the same situation except my husband's daughter (my step-daughter) is only 5. I have a long run ahead of me and have to be very careful. I have stooped to the ex's level a couple of times and whether I do, or I don't, it never changes. She says she has no problems with me, yet she does. She will not admit she is jealous of the fact that I am with her ex and her daughter does love me and enjoys spending time with us. I do not see it changing. |
| mimi |
posted 4/14/06 6:27 AM
Angie we need to talk I have been thought it all. My husband ex-wife was so bad she us to lie in court thank god the judge saw thought her. Because she tryed to get him in jail it did not work. See she wanted him back and he just did not want that I met him a year later after they where devorced and she acts like I took him away. I will never leave my husband I whitch she would just let go, find a nice guy and be happy in her life. |
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