Author	Topic:   EX-Wife
Dena	posted 2/1/05 7:19 AM       my husband ex wife was ok in the beginning. we wactually went shopping together, had a yard sale together. but then the next day would slam the door in my face. In Jan both his childresn came to live with us with her permission. One day she's nice the next she is jumping down my throat. In Oct My husband received full custody of the children age 14 and 13. Now all she does is bad mouth both of us in front of the children. She bad mouths her daughter all the time. The daughter crys when she know she has to go over to her house. she tapes all her phone conversations. All of a sudden she did not anything to do with my husband and go thru me. Now it has changed, when she calls and I answer she will not talk to me but only my husband. I have tried to stay neutral in all of this but is hard to see the daughter cry whe she has to go. I confronted the ex, and she states she didi not know we had a problem even though her family says she always bad mouth s us even in front of the children. We try to keep her informed of all school activites and so on. When my husband is out of town and I call to tell her about it. She only gets angry and says What did'nt the ex husband inform her of this. I hate having bitterness toward her, but I feel like I go out of my way to accomodate her. We give her extra time with the kids when she asks and they want to go. But when we asks for something, she gets mas and starts yelling. How do I make things right? Any suggestions. Their is more to the story but I won't bore you with all of that.
Angie	posted 6/23/05 10:14 AM     Dena, good luck. You can't make everything alright, all the time. Sounds like you go out of your way to accomodate the ex. I know how you feel. It sounds as if the ex is probably deeling with her own issues of insecurity and parenting skills, and takes it out on you. Keep plugging and as far as the bad mouthing..Our lawyer told us that usually if you try to take it to court, the ex's will stop for a while, the judge will say don't do that anymore, let you go, and then the ex starts it back up. Just keep showing the children you love them, don't talk bad about their mom, even when they want you to. Just listen and let them know you are there for them. Even try to encourage their patience in understanding( I know it feels so hepicritical (sp?) doesn't it)?
April	posted 7/29/05 5:02 PM       I hear ya! My husbands ex had to move away and their son lives with us, I tried to be nice and send pictures and etc, never a thank you, she always acted like I had alterior motives and did everything just to make her mad or feel inferior. Just stay being the bigger person is all that you can do. As long as you can feel good about what you do, that's all that matters.

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