Author	Topic:   Boyfriends ex-wife
Margaret	posted 1/3/05 6:13 PM       My boyfied and I have been dating a year and spend most of our time together. His ex-wife and I have the same first name. Even though they are divorced the settlement still has been been completed. They were married for 30 years and have 3 grown sons. The reason for the divorce is because the ex-wife was having an affair with a married man and my boyfriend stayed with here a year know this trying to get her to work things out. Now he is living in an apartment because his ex just bought a house and moved out. He is having it fixed up to move back in until he can sell it. He wants me to move in this house with him but her name is still on the deed. The most anoying part is she calls him while I'm with him at 2:00 a.m. 4:00 a.m. all hours to tell him she still loves him and wants to get back together and calls me Twit. I've never meet her but then she'll call back and cuss him out. She's an acoholic and wears a size 0 now. She still she's the same married man but won't leave us alone. She can't stand him being with me. He says he will never go back to her but I do wonder because when he talks to her he is very nice. I'm sick of her calling him at home because are divorced and she doesn't call to talk about their sons, she calls to talk about trying to get back together and trying to get the settlement done. Help, I don't know what to do. For a year I have not confronted her, however, I have my boyfriend.
Christine	posted 5/27/05 2:12 AM       I sympathize with you. I have a boyfriend with an ex-wife. In your shoes, I would feel very hurt. Why doesnt he tell her not to call? Why is he so nice? I would confront him not her and tell him he's not being fair to you. If his relationship with her is really over, he needs to do whatever it takes to eliminate this problem. If he cant or not ready, then he's not ready for you.
Angie	posted 6/23/05 4:06 PM     I agree with Christine. If it has been a year, and she calls and (most importantly) he answers and talks to her, then something is not right. 30 years is a long time to be with one person. If I were you, which I am not, I would have see him decreasing his time on the phone, number of times answering, or something that shows he is trying to break his ties. If not, you would be best to give him some space, and certainly not move in with him. Make sure you don't sacrifice yourself!!

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