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| Author | Topic: Brother and Mother Feed off each other |
| southerneuclid |
posted 2/6/10 5:38 PM
My brother has most of the narcissitic traits and my mother, also having NPD, idolizes him because he looks like her (so she thinks he is the most handsome and intelligent man around.) He plays up to her so that he can take what he wants from her. He puts up the act of caring and calls her all the time. He has taken hundreds of thousands of dollars in cash and collectables from her over the last 10 yrs or so. She does not seem to care that she is running out of resources. I mention to him what he did and he calls me nasty names. The two of them feed off each other for their narcissist support system. He thinks she is stupid and laughs in her face. It is sickening to watch him control her every move. She looks at him with admiration and listens carefully to every word he says. He is uneducated and not particularly bright but she thinks otherwise. They have reversed things and have convinced each other that I am the bad person. This is tough to take and since there is no treatment, I just sit back and watch this, when I have to be around them. Has anyone had this experience with a sibling and a parent feeding off each other for their N supply? How do you deal w/ it? |
| married to a narc |
posted 11/11/10 1:07 AM
Yes! My husband and his son. Very sick relationship that sounds identical to yours. I'm getting out - no room for me. |
| Jaynie |
posted 7/9/11 8:09 PM
Yes. My ex and my sister nearly drove me crazy and it took me two years to sever my relationship with her too. It was hard and there really is little you can do about or with them. There might be repercussions of severing a family relationship as others may not understand that you have been targeted for seeing through them and have lived with the verbal, emotional and mental abuse. As it stands with me, after a month of severing ties, I am the outsider and my sister who never married or had children has insinuated herself in my children's life and I appear to be the one out of sorts. And as you say, they are not particularly intelligent because for some reason their ego was marred at a very early age, so my sister, at best, is about seventeen or eighteen although she is 60 years old. |
| RA |
posted 12/23/11 10:40 AM
I have exactly the same problem. my mom idealized my younger brother... she sends me abuses on phone... i love them both.. |
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